No one ever really dreams of life after 50. When you’re young, 50 is so far into the future it doesn’t even register. There is too much to look forward to in between. I’m no exception. I suppose I imagined that, at that age, relationships would get easier, forgiveness would come more quickly and we would all cherish friends and family more knowing that the time together is shorter.
The reality is, a lot of people don’t get it.
Some of my own family members and long-time friends have a very different outlook. Instead of treasuring those relationships, they nurse grudges. They make up reasons to point fingers, assume the worst, instigate drama, cut ties, move on ... to what?
Jesus had a lot to say about forgiveness. In fact, it’s at the core of our salvation, God’s forgiveness of our sins through the atoning blood of Jesus. And it’s not a one-time occurrence. Living under God’s grace means all of our sins – conscious and unconscious – are forgiven. We are made right through Jesus Christ.
Jesus knew that forgiveness is the key to maintaining long-term relationships, whether between husband and wife, sister and brother, friend and friend. It may also be the hardest.
I’m trying to forgive those who have hurt me, often repeatedly, as I have been forgiven. Because relationships do matter to me. Now, more than ever.
Blessed are those whose transgressions are forgiven, whose sins are covered. Romans 4:7